Dr. L. T. Force

I have two sons - age 38 and age 36.  As I tell my friends: “Parenting is never over”. However, being a parent for adult children - is completely different than being a parent for young children. As a parent for young children - you have much more control. In that role...

Oh, how the world has changed. Wasn’t it just easier in the old days (around 1900) - when men died around the age of 44 years of age and women around the age of 46. Life was much simpler. You grew up faster, you took on more responsibilities for family earlier and then...

I lost my friend. Friday, I received a phone call - that I didn’t want to answer. My friend’s son was on the other end of the phone. He said to me: “ Well Larry, it looks like I’m going to be standing in for my Father now - Dad died this afternoon”. Sad words - I knew...

Good ole’ resentment. Wherever you go - it’s ready to travel with you. When you read articles about resentment, typically, you are provided with the same standard advice, i.e., “let it go”, “get over it” and the favorite: “resentment is like drinking a poison and hopin...

Frogman and the Stoic Exchange:

It’s Tuesday evening in early January. I am sitting - in a quaint coffee/wine restaurant on the Upper Eastside of Manhattan. I have just completed my annual medical examination at Mt. Sinai Medical Center. This is my second time here. I a...

Fringe definition: 

• an ornamental border consisting of short straight or twisted threads or strips hanging from cut or raveled edges

• something resembling a fringe :  edge, periphery

• one of various light or dark bands produced by the interference or diffrac...

Hark! Hark! Hearye! Hearye! The News is out: People are living longer and there will be a major demographic shift that will impact programs, services and resources! Oh sorry, didn't mean to alarm you. It's not new News at all...in fact...it's old news! As a society, we...

October 2, 2016

CAREGIVING: IS IT WORTH IT?

So here I am sitting at the foot of my Parents grave. My Mother died a year ago today. I knew my intention was to honor that anniversary by bringing flowers to her gravesite. I miss her so much and I can't believe a year ha...

Dimensional Solution-Based Treatment (DSBT): A Unique Approach

The specific treatment model of this program—Dimensional Solution-Based Treatment (DSBT)—validates the worth & strength of the individual, while addressing age-related dimensions or issues that are creating...

Sunrise at Nauset Beach on Cape Cod, Massachusetts.

“As does the sun…you too will rise to meet the Day”.

Different Styles of Family Caregiving: Heroes, Martyr’s, Snakes and the Devastated.

About 15 years ago, I wrote an essay on the different styles of Caregiving styles t...